Three Ways A Wife Can Minister To Her Husband

by - May 11, 2016

I recently noticed a pattern in the Scriptures.  There are so many different roles that people play throughout the Bible.  You have Masters and Servants, Husbands and Wives, Parents and Children, these are the obvious roles that you expect to find in the Scriptures.  God has also put in Church Leadership Roles . . . Pastors and Deacons, Bishops and Teachers.  One role that apparently I have overlooked while reading the the role of Ministers and exactly what they do.  According to Noah Webster's 1828 Dictionary, ministers have a very important place in society (I'll list the definitions of a Minister in a moment).  Not only in society, but also in the Word of God.  Their job is different than any other.  But one thing I have noticed in the Scriptures is this . . . Women can and do minister!

Minister, noun Properly, a chief servant; hence an agent appointed to transact or manager business under the authority of another; in which sense, it it a word of very extensive application.  One to whom a king or prince entrusts the direction of affairs of state; as minister of state; the prime minister in modern governments, the secretaries or head of several departments or branches of government are the ministers of the chief magistrate.

Minister, verb To attend and serve; to perform service in any office, sacred or secular.  To afford supplies; to give things needful; to supply the means of relief; to relieve.  To give medicines.

Looking at the definition of a Minister, we can see that woman can and mostly do fall into this category in the ministry.  Let's break it down a bit and see just how God wants us to be Ministers to his service, in our homes.

Using the Proverbs 31 Woman

Be A Chief Servant
What is a Chief Servant?  The Chief Servant in a home (where there are other servants - and your husband is also a servant to God) is the one responsible for making sure the jobs given by the "master" are completed.  Now I know what you are thinking, "Well she is just telling me to be a slave to my husband!"  No, I am not.  A Chief Servant, gets a lot more "perks" than the others.  By Ministering to your husband a a Chief Servant, you are making sure that all the things he NEEDS to get done, get done!  Why does this matter?  Because, you want your husband to trust you, completing the small things he asks you do do, will strengthen his trust in you, and those small things soon become bigger and better responsibilities.  "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  She will do him good and not evil ALL THE DAYS of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12

Manage the Business End
A home in many ways does work like a business.  Income come in and Income goes out.  Seems like more goes out than comes in most times!  But thank God he always provides.  Ministering through the business end of your home will allow your husband to have more time to focus on being at home.  In our house, and I know not everyone works this way, my husband handles our finances.  I kept messing it up (terrible with money).  But he does tell me what needs to be paid, and when it needs to be paid, as well as what needs to be bought and when we have the money to buy it.  While he is working, that is what he needs to be focused on, being the best employee he can be, he does not need to be stressing over whether or not we have groceries or the mortgage was paid.  These are the tasks that have been given to me to perform.  By the authority of another (the one who makes the money), I have been given the authority to spend it accordingly.  "She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.  She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.  She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens."  Proverbs 31:13-15

Be Trusted with Your Affairs
I don't think there is anything worse than a woman who tells ALL her business in her marriage.  Yes, we have friends, and yes we can talk to them . . . but there are some things that should stay private.  One thing that I think is shared entirely too much, is what goes on in the bedroom!  This is the one place that you husband can be exactly who he wants to be with you, IT'S PRIVATE!  If it were not supposed to be private, the Lord would have told us about sharing that information.  But no . . . Discretion is the word of the day.  "Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land."  Proverbs 31:23  Women that know too much about your husband, will not respect him like they should.  Church is his gate, the brethren are his elders and he is known there.  Let's make sure that he is known for the things that will bring honor and glory to God . . . not the things that make him look like anything less than a Christian.  Keeping your home affairs private will build a trust in your marriage, your home and your friendships.  People will automatically know, you are not going to bash, disrespect or talk about your husband inappropriately!

A little Disclaimer:  As I have stated before, I am not a "Super Saint!"  There are areas that we have discussed today, that I have fallen short in.  But, I believe that through prayer, God's Word, and a little bit of effort, we can all become the Ministers in our homes that will bring Honor and Glory to God and please our husbands.

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