5 More Ways You Can Minister To Your Husband

I am still in such amazement that we get to Minister to our families.  Now, I know that the title of this post is "She Ministered (at home)" but, Ministering to your husband or family does not come with a preset location.  We should never pass up the opportunity to Minister.  Our husbands should never feel as though they need to seek Ministering from any other person, if we are around and able to do so. 

Before we dive into Ministering in the Verb, let's take a quick recap of the definitions of Minister, given to us in the Webster's 1828 Dictionary.

Minister, noun Properly, a chief servant; hence an agent appointed to transact or manage business under the authority of another; in which sense, it is a word of very extensive application.  One to whom a king or prince entrusts the direction of affairs of state; a minister of state; the prime minister in modern governments, the secretaries or head of several departments or branches of government are ministers of the chief magistrate.

Minister, verb To attend and serve; to perform service in any office, sacred or secular.  To afford supplies; to give things needful; to supply the means of relief; to relieve.  To give medicines.


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A MINISTER IN THE VERB
Using Peter's Mother-In-Law and the Aged Women

Peter's mother-in-law is a great example of a woman who ministers in her home.  I guess you could call her a "Miracle Minister" of her home.  (I'll list the verses below in a moment), When Jesus entered into Peter's house, he found this woman, very sick.  She had a fever and could not even get out of bed.  Jesus had compassion on her, and healed her.  Now, If I was sick and Jesus healed me, I would probably be glued to him, not caring what was going on with the rest of my house, I mean, Hey, the guy who just saved my life is standing in my living room, right?  Wrong!  This woman, immediately after she is healed, gets up an MINISTERS to THEM.  She did not just minister to Jesus, but she ministered to all the people in her house.  What a woman!  Her story can be found in three of the gospels, Matthew, Mark and Luke.

"But Simon's wife's mother lay sick of fever, and anon they tell him of her.  And he came and took her by the hand, and lifted her up; and immediately the fever left her, and she ministered unto them."  Mark 1:30-31  {Also see, Matthew 8:14-15 & Luke 4:38-39}


The Entire Definition
I know for a lot of women, the idea of being a "servant" to her husband or family, might turn their stomachs a little.  We live in a society where we are taught to first and foremost take care of #1!  But the Minister of her home, does attend and serve, not as a slave or hired worker, but as a loving and caring Godly woman.  God gives us a direct example of what it is to Attend and Serve as a minister in the home.  In Titus chapter 2, he gives the curriculum for what the Aged Woman should do and teach.  Now, we all know that actions speak so much louder than words, so the best way for her (and us, when we reach this point) to teach these things is TO BE LIVING THEM HERSELF.  By putting these Scriptures into practice, we will be not only serving as an example to teach others, but we will be serving a Minister in our home! 

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober; to love their husbands; to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."  Titus 2:3-5

Have Holy Behaviour
When we are Ministering at home, we are performing a service.  Supplying what our husband (and families) need and want.  Our behaviour, believe it or not, will determine whether we are Ministering or Working.  The Aged Woman's behaviour was to be "as becometh holiness."  I don't think she shoved her husband out of the way when he came home from work to continue her business.  Kindness is a trait of holiness.  Be kind to him when he gets home.  I know, bad days come, (I had one today,) but when my husband came through the door, I tried my very best to be pleasant and kind.  I didn't throw his plate on the table loudly and scream, "Dinner's Ready!" at the top of my lungs.  He didn't make my day bad, all he did was go to work to provide for our home.

Tame The Tongue
Okay, so I have a bit of a problem with this.  My husband has said this statement to me more times than I'd like to admit, "I didn't say that, don't put words in my mouth!"  The tongue (mouth) is the most dangerous part of our bodies.  God even tells us so in his word.  "Thou lovest all devouring words, O thou deceitful tongue."  Psalm 52:4  "But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison."  James 3:8  I think it's safe to say, that the tongue is pretty dangerous.  It is especially dangerous to our husbands.  A Ministering wife, will not falsely accuse her husband.  I've known women that as soon as their husband walks in the door, they start.  More marriages have been destroyed by a wife accusing her husband of constantly cheating (when he was not).  This is what my husband told me about this, he said, "You know, if you keep saying, all you are doing is making me think it." (Probably not the exact words, it's been a while, but the point is clear.  When we accuse our husbands of doing something they are not, not only are we falsely accusing them, but we are in fact putting a thought into their head that the devil can grab and run with!

Teach Good Things
Believe it or not, but the first two come into play here also.  By how we act and what we say, we are teaching our husbands.  What in the world are we teaching them, you ask?  We are teaching them how we respond to God and his Word.  If a woman can help her husband turn to Jesus by her conversation (I Peter 3:1), surely this can work in the opposite way.  God looks at our conversation as more than what we say, it's how we act and behave ourselves.  When your husband is doing his best in the Lord, going to church, feeding off the preaching, getting in his Bible and learning the Word of God... teach him that you are doing the same.  Put what you are learning into practice.  This will teach your husband that you are growing in the Lord and feeding off the preaching and learning the Word of God.  If you are one of the many women in the world who's husband does not come to church with her, teach him what you are learning through your actions (don't come home and preach it to him - please!) . . . It's a proven fact this can work to help your husband turn to Jesus or start coming to church again.  "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, THEY ALSO MAY WITHOUT WORD BE WON BY THE CONVERSATION OF THE WIVES;

Exercise Soberness (that has nothing to do with drinking)
It goes without saying that we should not be sauced, but being sober in God's eyes has a whole other meaning.  Be stable, alert, paying attention, mindful, and aware of what is going on.  A sober minded Minister at home, can aid in preventing unfortunate things in the home.  Who we let in our homes, What we let in our homes, and When we let it in our homes, can all play in the factors of disaster.  God tells us why we should be Sober Ministers in our homes.  "Be SOBER, be vigilant; BECAUSE your adversary THE DEVIL, as a roaring lion; WALKETH about, SEEKING whom he may devour:" I Peter 5:8  Satan would love nothing more than for you to get cloudy minded with the cares of this world.  Be a Sober Minister, know what's going on, how it's effecting your husband (and family) and who (God or the Devil) will benefit from what's going on.

Love Him
It's a proven fact that nobody will ever love us, like we do!  "For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:" Ephesians 5:29  This Scripture is discussing the husband and wife relationship in Ephesians 5, but it rings true in all aspects!  Minister to your husband by loving him... LIKE YOU LOVE YOURSELF!  See to his needs, wants, and desires.  Comfort is fears, losses and concerns.  Listen to his problems, work day, and stories.  Pray for his walk with God, ministry, job, travel, and his safety.  All the things that you want your husband to do for you - do for him.  It's The Golden Rule:  DO UNTO OTHERS, AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU.  Which stems from the Scriptures that Jesus spoke in Matthew 7:12, "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them:  for this is the law and the prophets."  LOVE is described as a feeling, but it is given in an action.

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